Proposed to the People's University of Mulhouse, the conference-debate drew 11 people around the theme of loneliness and new technologies.
The feeling of loneliness seems primarily related to certain situations: frequent moves, unemployment, illness, separation, old age or no children, living in cities, work very addictive ... There are those who can not stand the loneliness and those who need it.
Some people choose to enroll in social networks and are quite satisfied, others are frustrated by links being too superficial. Some participants refused to join the Internet age. But again, it is possible to feel alone against all, at a time when most of the information circulating on the "canvas".
contact by phone or email avoids direct confrontation, which can be scary. "People dare more, because they know they will probably never". At the same time, anything can be true, anything can be wrong. A person who signs "STONE" is actually a woman. Who can we believe then, that give her confidence? And returns the question of loneliness or isolation.
Not to mention the existential loneliness, linked to the "passages" or "events" of life: The teenager who lives in band to not feel alone at a time when he loses his bearings; the patient, alone with his pain ... and the moments of birth and death.
But solitude is it always negative? Certainly not: there are people who need to be alone, to create an adventure, write a book, give meaning to their lives ...
The child, when he had a father or a good enough mother, has the ability to move naturally in contact with the loneliness. As Winicott said he experienced little, being alone, first in the presence of his mother.
The problem is the feeling of loneliness experienced as a feeling of abandonment. So the fear of being abandoned, disappointed, outweighs the desire to be in contact, at risk of feeling isolated.
course, we did not turn the issue into two hours, the subject is so vast.
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